I see a lot of angry women on dating and matchmaking sites as of late. They are angry at the sites for poor matches, at men for not responding, at men for being "shallow", and other women for being "perfect".
As a man I am just as upset about being matched with literally hundreds of women, most of whom I would not even think of dating. I am certainly not going to express it in a public forum let alone in a profile where I am looking to attract someone of the opposite gender. No site is perfect and they are largely limited to what they are given as far as applicants. I am actually a fan of a site where I may get a match or two every six weeks or so because they are higher quality matches. Your expressed anger may be the root of your issue. I generally skip any woman who is angry.
Men get a lot of women that they are interested in who do not respond, so this is not an one sided issue. Understanding that both genders experience this may help you. I understand that it is really depressing when you think that you have found someone that you may click with only to find out that they are unwilling to respond and/or already in a relationship. A simple "currently in a relationship, putting this on hold" would be greatly appreciated in the latter case. Once again, expressing your anger in your profile is a turn-off. Men will skip the angry women.
Lets be honest, is anyone going to date someone to whom they are not physically attracted? Just because the man you like does not like you back does not make him shallow. Just because no one has communicated with you does make them shallow. Do I skip over unattractive women that I have been matched with? Yes. Is there something beyond physical appearance that causes me be okay with skipping them? Yes. The interesting side is something that I have mentioned before in this article, being angry makes you less attractive.
Being angry at someone because they are prettier than you makes you look petty in the eyes of a man. Open hostility towards some unknown, size 8, 5'7" woman is not going to make men like you better. That was a very specific unknown woman. I got that off of a woman's profile. She said that she hated women like that because they were stealing all the men from her. If you are an otherwise attractive woman than being a little cynical can be attractive, however that is a rare instance.
All that said I fully understand someone's frustration with paying for a service that is doing you a dis-service. Some mainstream sites have monthly membership fees that are the third highest monthly bill their members receive behind housing and transportation. Complain, privately, to your service provider. Tell them that you have paid for X amount of months of service and have gotten nowhere. Generally, sites say give them six months. They may help you tweak your profile or setting to better serve you. One site once offered all its members a six month complimentary extension of service for each member who did not have a match in the first six months. It is not much, however technically it does cut the bill in half.
The advice doled out is unqualified and is just for entertainment purposes. Your results may vary. The author is in no way responsible for any consequences be they positive or negative.
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