Creating A Stalker: A How-Not-To Guide

So you meet a nice man and really hit it off.  Maybe you lay it on a little thicker than you should.  You tell him that you cannot imagine your life before him... That he is the one you never thought you would ever meet.  He is a total dream boat and you have left no doubt in his mind that you know it... And then something happens, real or simply imagined, and he is dead to you.  It is nothing apparent to him or anyone else that he knows.  You and your crew know what he did or did not do, so you cut off all contact with him.  That e-mail that you gave him, you delete the account.  If you met online, you delete the account affiliated with that site.

Here is the deal: Your friend Margie may think what he wrote was creepy, however he did not mean it that way.  That thing he did or did not do, he has analyzed it to death and cannot figure out how that led to you cutting off all contact, so he dismisses it as not the problem.

What is a man to do when things go from super terrific awesome to dead silence? Seek the headwaters of the river of pain.  He just wants to know what he said or did, so that he can apologize, make things right and get back to good.  If it was so grievous that you bring this budding romance to a grinding halt, then there is no way you are getting back together with him.  However, he does not know that.  He has looked at every angle and cannot see the problem, so he thinks it is a simple misunderstanding.

You quit him cold turkey, so those messages that he sent you on facebook are deleted without reading them.  Had you read them then you would know that he has finally given up trying and just wants to know what happened so he can avoid it with the next woman.  The more you stonewall him the harder he tries until something happens.  Either he gives up, you finally tell him, or you call the police.

The moral of the story is that had you just talked it out with him instead of giving him the cold shoulder, then you two might be an item.  Even if it was just what you thought or it did not work out, you would have saved yourself a lot of grief and him a lot of time.  You could have parted ways in a way that is somewhat amicable way.

You fell for him for a reason, so give him the benefit of the doubt and at least talk to him.  Chances are that he will be reasonable and leave you alone if you really want.  He deserves to know why you no longer want to see him.  There were no warning signs on his end that you did not want to see him again.


The advice doled out is unqualified and is just for entertainment purposes. Your results may vary. The author is in no way responsible for any consequences be they positive or negative.