When it comes to rejection, silence is never golden. While it may be to protect the man from the sting of rejection, Silence only adds to the pain. Rejection should be quick and to the point. Do not sugarcoat it and do not put it off. The longer you wait for him to get the hint, the less likely it is that he will pick up on it without a sense of anger.
By the same token, do not be unduly harsh. A simple statement of non-interest is sufficient. Lying about a non-existent boyfriend or some other reason that you cannot be together only creates an implied "not right now" that you never intended.
This goes for online rejection as well as in-preson rejection. I am a fan of a two tiered approach for online dating / matchmaking sites. If no contact has been made, then a simple push of the "Not Interested" button is fine. However, if he has made an overture then you need to send a polite note, if possible, and wait for a few days for it to be read. Once you know it has been read or a sufficient duration of time (no less than 72 hours) then you can press the button on the budding romance. The note need only be something simple such as "I thank you for your interest and am flattered that you would choose to pursue me. I realize that it is not easy to make the first move, however the attraction is not mutual." You want it be available long enough for him to read and yet short enough duration that it is not misleading.
The advice doled out is unqualified and is just for entertainment purposes. Your results may vary. The author is in no way responsible for any consequences be they positive or negative.
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