Why 2nd Or 3rd String Is Not So Bad

When it comes to dating/matchmaking websites, Men tend to categorize women into one of four levels or strings if you will.  The first string are the women that they cannot wait to talk to and get to know better.  The second string are the women who the man is attracted to, however not enough to risk rejection out of hand.  The Third string are the ones that are just okay.  The forth are the woman that he has ruled out.

You have a great shot with the man if he contacts you without prompting.  You are clearly first string there.  However, what if he has not reached out to you.  If he has not prevented communication with you, then you are in the sweet spot of 2nd or 3rd string.  This is a good place to be.  First stringers are generally inundated with gentleman callers.  These are the woman that seem like they were born with a boyfriend.  These are the women for whom the "pretty girl who never gets asked out" is true... that is until they get on a dating site.

So you are not his first pick... or his first dozen or so picks.  Once you get past that, initiate contact.  It does not have to be a full blown begin the process of getting to know each other.  You can just let him know that you are a real live woman who is interested in getting to know him better.

If you are a second string, then this is nothing but good news.  You are telling a man who already has a moderate level of interest in you that you are slightly more interested in him than he is in you.  This is a good position to be in, as it gives him an ego boost.  However, if you are third string this does not always play out well for you.  You being interested in him does make you more attractive in his eyes, however is that enough for him to make contact?  That is the million dollar question.  If you take the "glass half full" approach then you may see it as the extra little push that he needs to see you for the woman that you are.  Chances are actually in your favor if you think about it.  He has weighed the idea of closing the door on the possibility and yet decided to keep the door open.

A woman not responding to a man's overtures, either poorly or not at all, always makes a woman who shows interest more enticing.  He may not be knocking down your door, however if you play your cards right he might just be knocking at your door in the near future.



The advice doled out is unqualified and is just for entertainment purposes. Your results may vary. The author is in no way responsible for any consequences be they positive or negative.