A Watched Tea Kettle Never Boils

... Or otherwise known as "Love Will Find You When You Stop Looking For It."

I actually do not buy into this axiom because I think it is kind of dangerous.  Here is what I mean.  You can be looking for love and still not be ready for it.  And some people think that as long as they are looking that it is okay to not be ready.  They think that they can become ready after they find love or right before. 

What do I mean by ready for love? Some times we all wrong expectations about what a relationship should be and we need to get those back in line with reality.  There may be habits that are somewhat beneficial as a single person that do not translate well into being part of a couple.  And those behaviors need to be amended and replaced with behaviors that fit both single life and couplehood. 

The truth is that love can happen any moment of any day therefore you really need to have your ducks in a line as soon as possible.  Putting it off can make it that much more difficult to do.  And also, some of the very things that need tending to in order to be in a good place for a relationship can be contributing factors to why you are not in a relationship.

As I have noted earlier there are women whose whole identity is wrapped up in their current or future romantic entanglement. And some men may find this endearing for a short time however, no man wants to be solely your world. Developing outside interests or hobbies may be part of the solution, however they may just offer escapes from doing the real work.

There are plenty of books out there geared toward men getting their acts together, however I have neither seen nor heard of one geared toward women.  It is not healthy to assume that the reason you are not in a relationship or the type of relationship that you want/deserve is due solely to men and their issues.  A relationship is a partnership and each has to contribute 100%.

And maybe that is the knowledge behind the saying in all its forms, that you need to stop looking for a man and start working on yourself.  If that is in fact, the truth behind it then it has been lost over time.

The advice doled out is unqualified and is just for entertainment purposes. Your results may vary. The author is in no way responsible for any consequences be they positive or negative.