As I mentioned in a previous post, I was granted a 48 pass to look at the hundreds of women I was matched with on a dating site. It was not all "Kick out the fatties and keep the Lustie Busties". There were a lot of overweight gals and no real knockouts, however that did not make it any easier.
The pluses was that I did narrow down my list of matches REALLY quickly. If a woman was clearly not my physical type she was moved to the "no interest" pile. I also looked at other criteria that took a while longer. Honesty and intregrity were key factors. Height and career were factors that were already at play, though truth beknown, I did keep one woman based on looks who lived near enough to me that was an occupational mismatch.
The minuses were that these were all people who deserve respect and dignity. There were some women who physique was fine, however were not my type. There was even a woman whose "look" did not suit me, however by most standards she was quite pretty. If a woman was clearly overweight or clearly not my type, they got dispatched fast. It was the women who, upon further inspection, were not my type that were the most difficult. The idea that these women were relatively in shape and matches in many respects made it even more difficult. However, if I am not physically attracted to someone then I am not physically attracted to someone.
And keep in mind, there is nothing saying that these women were not breathing a sigh of relief that I was not interested in them. They may not have been physically attracted to me. My stated career may have been a deal breaker for them. Something about my profile may not have popped for them.
Like I said, all these women deserve respect and are people. They were all looking for the same thing: "a nice guy". As quickly as most of these went, it was good 36 hours in, at least, before I finish the first run through. There were that many women that I was matched with.
None of the women from the "yes' pile, a grand total of like 4, ever contacted me. I would not have been opposed to telling the women who I passed on my grounds for passing on them. There were even some, the difficult ones, that I wanted to tell them why I passed on them. Some were clearly vulnerable and I felt it was best to just pass on them now because I had already decided. There were a handful of women who had been passed over by men because they were too smart or too independent or too whatever. Any that was not my reason for passing them over. I have detailed some of them on here before, so you can see for yourself.
That is one of the downsides to sites limiting the communication that you can do. It is difficult to tell someone that you have lost interest in them. You kind of go through the motions until the communication comes to its inevitable conclusion and you have to sign up to talk further.
The first time I was able to do the open communication event, I just had to progress far enough to be able to do freeform communication. The very next event they did, the limited it to the step before freeform.
The advice doled out is unqualified and is just for entertainment purposes. Your results may vary. The author is in no way responsible for any consequences be they positive or negative.
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