Dealing with men on social media should not be rushed into by single women. Social media perpetuates the sense of community between total strangers. And this makes for fireworks when it involves two single people.
Take for example, this couple. They meet online after he reads something she wrote for a blog that he reads and identified with what she wrote. The blog had a link her blog and he begins to read it from the beginning. He comments on her blog, next thing you know they are following each other on Twitter. After months of flirting back and forth, he makes the big social media leap... He friend requests her on Facebook. She says yes after about a week.
This story does not have a happy ending. He thinks that they are closer than they really are and makes a comment on Twitter. Next thing, you know she is unfollows him on Twitter, unfriends him on Facebook, and bans him from commenting on her blog.
He is really left holding the bag. Was his comment really that bad? He made fun of the college she graduated from. He had grown up in the town that was home to their rival. He could careless about college rivalries. He went to a college that did not even have sports teams. He and his friends of both genders usually jest in this fashion, so he saw nothing wrong with it. However, had he known, he would not have done that. He is left with having lost someone he thought was developing into a friend. And she has lost the same. All over a misunderstanding.
Lessons to take away from this are quite a few. First, do not follow a single man on Twitter if you are not interested in him either as a friend or romantic entanglement. He will take that as a sign of interest if he is interested in you. The best thing to do on Twitter if you do not want a man to respond to you using it is to lock your feed. Secondly, He may get the hint that you are not interested in him if you do not response to his posts and/or his mentions of you even if you are following him back. Even an intermittent reply/response gives a sign of mutual interest. Adding him on other social networks before you have established an online friendship is not a good idea. If he writes something that upsets you such as picking on your alma mater, call him on it. If he apologizes and stops then you have helped the situation. Running away without letting him respond to the situation is just going to cause hard feelings all around.
The advice doled out is unqualified and is just for entertainment purposes. Your results may vary. The author is in no way responsible for any consequences be they positive or negative.
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