You Do Not Have To Read Between The Lines, Just Read The Lines

When crafting a profile for a dating or matchmaking site, you take your time.  You choose your words very carefully.  You change your answers based upon new information.  Crafting a profile is very key to presenting yourself the way that you want to be seen.  It is also an important instrument for broadcasting what you expect out of the person reading it.  You put a lot of thought into it, so you want that reflected.

This is where most people stop.  I find a lot of women I meet online do not fully read my profile.  I have gotten many "Hey, we work in the same field.  I think that makes us super compatible."   If they had read my profile in full before shooting off a neat little message they would note that I do not date women in my field or any other related field for that matter.  I send them polite notes back thanking them for their interest and stating that in their enthusiasm that they forgot to read all the way down to the bottom.  Some retort back that they do not see if as a big deal or that they can change my mind.

There has been many a time when I have been thoroughly taken with a young lady when I read something in her profile that indicates to me that we are not a good match.  I take it in stride and move forward.  I respect her bounds as I expect others to respect mine.

Undoubtedly there are some women who write me off without reading my profile and that is fine too.  Being shortsighted is not a trait I value so it is no real loss.  However, in cases where the woman decides that she is not interested in me she has most likely read my profile in its entirety before making that judgement or at least she has run across an non-negotiable of hers that is not present in me.


The advice doled out is unqualified and is just for entertainment purposes. Your results may vary. The author is in no way responsible for any consequences be they positive or negative.