I have found that most women do not know which of those dozen or so photos paint them in the best light and therefore should be set as their profile picture. The easiest remedy is to ask your heterosexual male friends to pick it for you.
What men see in photos is not so much what is there. A picture with a baby or little kid, regardless of the caption, makes you look "baby crazy" on a dating site if you do not have children yourself. It does not matter if it is nephew or the 1st grade class you teach. On the other hand, having a picture of your children as part of your collection may be welcome.
Having pictures of you with the children in your life on a social network is not the same. They are part of your life and any man who cannot handle that is not worth your time. As long as you have at least equal or more photos of you without kids, you will not come across as "baby crazy".
Pets in photos can be a mine field. Referring to them as your "babies" or "fur babies" makes you look crazy. This is a major put off for men. Pictures of pets should be in moderation. Pictures of pets should not be overly cutsie. No costumes. No you two snuggling. A picture of a pet asleep is okay. Two is pushing it. Three is him heading for the exit. Pictures taken of you two at the park is acceptable. Pictures of you walking your dog is fine. It is just any picture that makes the animal appear to be a surrogate are the ones that cause trouble.
The "riding in the car" shot is not a needed cool shot. I have no idea who sold women on the idea of a picture of them inside a motor vehicle was cool. It is not. Generally the shots are poor quality and not that flattering. Cut it out. You look like you are trying too hard. And I suspect that if you were honest, you would admit that you were trying too hard.
The shot of yourself in the mirror holding a cellphone is just confusing. It always takes me a few moments to realize that you were trying to take a picture of yourself with your cell phone. Those photos do not look flattering.
The torso shot is always a crowd pleaser... however it might not be a shot for you. There are two types of torso shots that I have found. One is where your breasts are practically the only thing in the shot. The first few of these that I came across, I thought it was just bad cropping on the site's end. However it occurred to be that the less well endowed never had problems like that. The other torso shot is a slightly wider shot however, it is clearly done to show off what God gave you. Your face is in the shot and you are in a three quarter profile. The sharp crop line underlying your cleavage gives it away. It might ward off the "shy guy", however I find it odd that most of the women in these shots would still be considered beautiful even if they were not D-cups. Men are not going to read into these like you are easy or a tease. It does project a certain confidence, however most men could do without these shots.
The "I just cropped out the last guy" shot is something that should be avoided. If you broke up with him, then just take down the photo altogether.
The duet shots of you and your best friend should not be on dating sites. And especially as your profile picture. If most dating sites are like the one I am on, then the high quality men are matched with about 250 new women a month as per the handful per month that women are matched with during the same period. If there are two women in the photo either both must meet his attractiveness level or one of them (hopefully you) must be a stunner. I have yet to find a stunner on a dating website, so keep it a single. On social networks you can always tag each person in the photo so it is easy enough to figure out who is who.
Shots with men are a toughie for dating websites. On social networks, you are going to find shots of you with other men. It is just a fact. If you are actively using your social network profile to attract a man, then you need to be careful. However, if you are just living your life out loud, then makes no difference. Dating sites are different story. A cute shot of you with your brother is fine. A family photo is cool. Just be sure to label it as such. The real issue is when you post a photo of you with "a friend" or your "best guy friend". Men read this clearly as "me with the guy I am too foolish to see is wanting to date me" or "me with the ex, however I like this photo so I am going to lie". We men are too stupid to realize that approximately 37% of the men in dating site photos listed as brothers are actually exes.
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