I was watching this talk show the other day and the female guest wanted her male friend to stop flirting with her. The host came the conclusion that the man had feelings for his friend that were not reciprocated by her. I sure hope that there was more to the story than what they showed.
The man never said that he had feelings for her. He said that he just wanted to be friends.
The whole flirting thing taken out of context sure could indicate the conclusion drawn by the host. I felt that the man had no real romantic feelings for her and here is why.
I have many platonic friends that I give encouragement to when they are in a dating slump, dating the wrong guy, or just do not feel pretty. I am constantly giving them reassurances of their beauty, both inner and outer, their self-worth, and so on. I never lie to them or embellish because that is just dishonest.
Some have taken it in the spirit intended and we are still friends. While others have really misunderstood my intentions.
All of the bad ones never mentioned their discomfort with what I was telling them. They flat out ignored me when I prefaced my compliments with the fact that I did not have romantic interest in them. They were fairly conceited, those that I am speaking of. I am in no way saying that this female guest was. She expressed only that his words and actions made her feel uncomfortable and that she wanted to keep him as a friend.
I think women really misread this sign. If you feel uncomfortable, then tell him. If he is a real friend then he will stop. If you are curious about his intent, then ask him and really listen to what he says.
The advice doled out is unqualified and is just for entertainment purposes. Your results may vary. The author is in no way responsible for any consequences be they positive or negative.
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