When a woman writes a whole paragraph on trust when asked what she looks for in a man, men will read that as that you have been cheated on before... by several... if not all... previous boyfriends. Do not mention previous relationships in an online profile. Either directly or indirectly.
Then there is this whole "Christian dominatrix" thing as I call it. Where the woman writes about being disciplined and dicipled by someone... or talks about having to have her man keep her in line. It makes you want to take a shower just to clean off all the unintended filth. Say that you are looking for a man to the be spiritual leader of the relationship. Say that you had a great Christian role model.
Never mention the man reading the ad in the ad. That may not make much sense, so here is a sample "I enjoy curling up on the couch with my boyfriend" It sounds like you are in a relationship already. It also comes across as desperate.
Never answer questions with some form of "You will just have to see" or "Just ask me" or "I do not know". First you can always leave it blank which is rarely a good idea. Make a concerted effort to answer it. If it is how other people see you or their first impression, then ask people that you trust what their first impression was of you.
Do not treat the online profile like a job interview, for them or for you. No man wants to be interviewed on a date or is swayed by the fact that you can type 31 words a minute.
Homeownership is not as big a turn-on as you may think. I mean I have never heard of a guy getting all excited about a woman who owns her own home. It just does not happen.
Answers like "Leisure time? What is that?" and "I do not have time to read" or "I wish I had more time to devote to..." are not good. If you cannot find an hour a night to read a book, then you do not have time to pursue a relationship.
Do not go on a matchmaking site, just to find friends or someone to casually dating. On the flipside, do not go on a dating site, looking for a serious relationship. Based on my own experiences, you may end up being just friends with someone that you were looking to build a relationship with, however that should never be your main goal on a matchmaking site.
Do not say that you are skeptical of online dating and then leave a barebones profile. A man sees that you have given up before it began... He is not going to pursue you and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Put yourself out there.
I have mentioned how cheap and dishonest it is to put an e-mail address or some such in your profile unless you are paying for the site. (I do not know if I included that caveat before, however I add it now. If you are paying for the service, then you are not costing the service money because they have it.) Saying that you can be found on a social networking site is a little odd... and still dishonest. The kicker is that if the man has only your first name, the school you went to and the town you currently reside in, he cannot find you 9 times out of 10. So you have come across as someone who likes to cut corners and he will not even be able to find you. Men will look if they do not have a picture of you.... because they want to know what you look like.
The advice doled out is unqualified and is just for entertainment purposes. Your results may vary. The author is in no way responsible for any consequences be they positive or negative.
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